Lacking in me, means I need to select my friends more carefully, and back off from the friendships that are not genuine - yeah, that much is my fault, for sure.

Ah, yes,  the ulterior motive - the little gift when they are going to ask you a huge favor next week,  like pick them up at the eye doctor or the hospital outpatient place, or feed the cat.  .    Always a trade-off - tit for tat - keeping "score"  - if they are going to give gifts with an ulterior motive, at least get...more

Yeah, and sadly, way too may "grown-ups" do this also.  Once I went out to dinner with the daughter and son-in-law of my neighbor - after dinner we  went back to the neighbor's house - they all got out their laptops - who knows what they were doing - I just got up and left - they never even missed me.

try to talk to a teen or a 20-something - they cannot even speak in complete sentences - all they can say is "you know" "I'm like" - I think this means "I said, or "I thought"  - never heard of yes, no, please, thank you

Your are very perceptive about your situation.  I hope you find someone who can get past your Asperger's.  Seems that there are many others, for unknown reasons, who don't have the socialization skills to form adult friendships.  Example:  a neighbor who has taught 5th grade for about 30 years.  Everything she knows ab...more

Not sure how your response is relevant to the article - or is this just another opportunity for you to rant - ?  Election is over, dude - get over it . . . .

OMG - so true - I don't do Facebook, so my few friends are in-person friends, but most of them are so dysfunctional I really have to limit my time around them - alcoholic, manipulative, controlling, whiny, needy, passive-aggressive, gross table manners, etc.  And the older we all get, the worse they all get.  I guess t...more

Just depends on how bad  they really want to stay in the NY area.  If there is nothing tying them to NY - then they are free to try their luck elsewhere.   Bottom line - no one is forcing any of these people to stay anywhere - unless they have visa or immigration issues, and that situation will be the same anywhere the...more

These (notice I am not useing the word apartments - !) are unbelievably awful - like a 3rd world country.  The people who live here need to wise up and get out of the greater NY area - and go somewhere that they can find decent jobs and decent housing.  NY is over-rated - except for the very rich and the tourists.  Oth...more